I was having one of those day...you know the ones when you get out of bed, you don't feel your best and all you really want to do is pull the covers back over your head and snuggle down for the day.
Well, since I work for myself, there are times I can take a day like this, if I really wanted to. However, being me, I cannot stay in bed all day...I just believe that life is for living and why waste it sleeping...plus, it would only keep me awake tonight and then the whole cycle would continue....
So I got up. I stayed in my PJ's. I drank some coffee, I ate a cookie for breakfast...ok, after some granola but still, I was being a bit naughty. I began to tell myself that I had to do some work. My head was telling me that I should do this and that but my body....Ah my body had other plans, my heart told me to be still. My heart told me gently to do my meditation then sit in silence.
Some cool stuff came up during that meditation...in that stillness. Some answers, ideas and yet again I was reminded of the importance of silence and stillness. Of getting in touch with our bodies.
My friend and fellow coach Dr. Susan Bernstein (I interview her for my self-care course here) took me through her sensational shift session last week and I was reminded of the power of taking ourselves out of our heads and getting into our bodies.
The power in this lies in what can be shifted here. It can be pretty powerful yet there is no need to feel guilty about this. Yes it sounds indulgent...I hear you..."well I haven't got the time to sit in silence, I'm too busy to just sit on my ass." I hear you, truly I do.
Yet what I also hear is what is not being said here, what is simmering under the surface and believe me, I have heard a lot form my clients in the past..
"I'm making my life not matter."
"I'm not worth the time."
"I'm not worthy...period."
The greatest gift you can give yourself and other people is by practicing the art of self-care. Self-care may sound like crap to some people yet it equals self-love. It equals worth and power and energy and vitality. Filling ourselves up from the inside.
The pull feels so much better than the push.
That place where we are pushing ourselves so hard to achieve, more, greater, better, more successful. It feels anxious, tight, irritating, uneasy.
The pull when we take our time, end up doing a better job, good enough. It feels more in flow, easy, balanced, strong, connected.
You can literally pepper your days with moments like this. You don't have to have an entire day but small mini moments such as:
- having a grounding moment where you stomp your feet on the floor, connect with the earth on your lunchbreak by walking barefoot somewhere in a park or a patch of grass
- taking nice teabags or gourmet coffee to work and sit for 5 minutes completely immersed in said cup
- going for a lunchtime 15 minute head or shoulder massage to relieve tension
- going for a walk around the block listening to some relaxing music on your headphones
- laughing with a colleague
- watching a really funny or uplifting video on youtube...here's a cute one
- watch a visual meditation by yours truly here
There are so many beautiful acts you can engage in to ensure you stay a little more grounded, a little more relaxed and yet not feel guilty.
Guilt usually is a completely wasted feeling. Aim to discard as much of this feeling as you can.
Do you have too much push and not enough pull?
What do you think will happen when you don't conserve some of your energy?
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