Welcome to the second part of Grow Yourself WIth Love. I do hope you tried some of the ideas from last week's post and that perhaps you are scheduling your week a little better, perhaps you have even tried out one of the smoothie recipes.So a lot of people tell me they don't have time in their day to do the things they know would help them to feel a little better. I get it, really I do. Yet today, I am going to tell you again that adding just a few minutes of meditation and mindfulness into your day can actually create more time for you. You will go about things more efficiently than before when you approach things with a different attitude and meditation can definitely switch on a different mindset.I like to begin my day with meditation. Even if I can fit in a few minutes, I already start my day thinking more clearly and calmly.I have created a free meditation for you to download today. There is nice soothing birdsong playing in the background to this meditation and it lasts for just 1 minute 55 seconds. I am certain that you can listen to that before popping out of bed in the morning.Aim to try it most mornings this week. It will gently wake you, begin your day by loving your new morning ritual and please let me know if you would like more like this.
Grow yourself with love, join me in changing our lives piece by tiny piece.Yvonne xx
Give your mind the right kind of fuel before rising from bed with this very short simple meditation
Welcome to part one of grow yourself with love.
What do I mean by that? The question I am certain you are asking.We can choose to nourish ourselves and heap kindness onto ourselves every single day or we can choose to run around like a headless chicken (I have never liked that saying and I don't know why I chose it....I'm going to think of another- I'll keep you posted).When we choose to be unprepared (yes. it's a choice) we tend to think rather erratically, rather hurriedly, quick fixes, shortcuts, ways around something that ultimately requires more from us.I know we're not super heros and I know that we often beat ourselves up for not getting it all perfect all of the time but I'm not talking about doing everything perfectly. I'm talking about sitting back and really connecting with what you are doing with your days and how it will affect you and those around you.When you come from a slightly more prepared space, planning, organising, taking your time (even if it's an extra few moments in bed, bath or shower...hell even beyond). You tend to be a bit slower, a bit calmer, a bit more relaxed when you choose to grow yourself with love.I was the worst person for comparing myself, I'm better now than I ever used to be. Now I actually choose to compare myself only to an older version of myself (like how was I this week compared to last week, last month, last year). I grow myself, and by that I mean my mind, body and soul...spirit, whatever you wish to call it...I choose to grow it, cultivate it with only love.When I love myself (and I'm not talking about me thinking I'm better than anyone or any ego-ic sense of the word). I am talking about loving what it and aiming to make it even better for myself and my life.I'm talking nourishment of myself. Approaching life in a wholly-listic way. It has been a fair battle I have waged for many ayears.I always loved the gym but not the fact I had to think about what I was putting in or on my body.I always loved meditating but didn't do it nearly as much as I wanted to or thought I should...I always loved my food, maybe not just the right ones.I always always failed to plan.So I sat back one day and got to a point where I was happy with myself on many counts but also felt like I was not being true to myself in other ways.So this series of upcoming weekly posts will be all about how you can grow yourself with love.I will give you simple tips I have gleaned from my own research and own testing out and learning along the way. I hope you'll join me in this series and try out even some of the ideas I share.STARTING TODAY
- Plan what you will eat for breakfast tomorrow and maybe the rest of the week. Then do any prep or setting up of the kitchen table (if you have kids who eat with you then eating together is great for family interaction/relationships
- Make one healthy Smoothie or Juice this week. I aim to make a new one each week to add to my growing list of healthy snacks/breakfasts. See here for an idea or two.
Let's journey together to a new way of looking at your life. Not one of comparison or envy of others but one that is healthy in mind, body and soul.
Running around like a wig without a head....??
Running around like a flasher without a coat???
Flapping around like a fish out of water??? Hmmm, I'll keep thinking...
Smacking my head at my slight stupidity over here :)
I apologise that this video is a bit narrow...ok, a lot narrow. You can still see and here everything that is going on but I filmed it all before I realised that the video would come out narrow.
Oh well, these things happen...sigh.
Every Tuesday will be my health coaching video or blog post.
I heard back from a few people in response to my newsletter that growing yourself with love is important and so because I get quite a few questions surrounding my own health changes, I have decided to start with a request to film a video of me making good old homemade Almond Milk.
I have also posted a couple of my new fave recipes below that you can make with the milk you make today!!
Benefits of Almond Milk
Almond milk is great if you are lactose intolerant, because it doesn't contain any lactose. Almond milk is great if you suffer from soy allergies or just don't want soy in your diet. Almond milk is great for you if you are gluten intolerant or sensitive to gluten as it doesn't contain casein (a milk protein that's chemically similar to gluten).
I haven't been posting much lately because I have had a break and also am very very close to finishing the first draft of my novel. Yes I have finally realised a long held dream of finishing writing a book.Now I have to put it into order, allow the first drafts to be read and then flesh it all out to enable me to send it to an editor.It is a very exciting time and yet I find myself at the stage that we all find ourselves in at some point or another. Asking all the nitty gritty inner critic questions to myself like...Who will read this?Will people want to read it?Is it actually any good anyway?What if people who read the first draft think it sucks big time and I shouldn't bother?Who's gonna publish it anyway?Yada yada yada and on it goes...Well I have learned over the years that that pesky inner critic is simply a voice that is trying to keep me in check. It's the voice that will have us running scared from our long held dreams and from living a life on our terms.I have learned that I can buy into it or I can be solely responsible for my own happiness in life and ignore it.I am choosing to ignore it and here's why.I recently pulled out a stack of my old journals and realised something that really rather shocked me!For years and years two consistent things I wrote down are that some day I would love to have my own book on the shelf/kindle/whatever and that I want to speak another language fluently.It got to the point that I got fed up with myself reading year after year how I would do this and yet had nothing to show for it.
I decided that this was the year I would pick up a language, pick up my pen (ok laptop but it didn't really work well in the sentence now did it?) and realise my two dreams.The writing part was easy because I adore it and the French was a bit harder but so enjoyable. WHY DID I WAIT SO LONG? WHY WHY WHY? I cried out!I am sure you have something in your own life that you have always wanted to realise, bring to life or start doing but you have waited perhaps for the exact right moment. Or perhaps you thought you were getting too old or (insert excuse).
But guess what?You're not too oldIt's not too lateYou can do anything you plan to do and make a goal aroundYou have everything you need to get startedYou can start todayYou can follow your dreamYou can do itBelieve in yourselfDo something right nowWait no more
It feels amazing and I am going to keep going with my dream of being published even if it takes me years and years. I just bought and downloaded onto my ipad Writers' & Artists' Yearbook 2014.A valuable resource for learning all about getting your work out into the world.I will learn all I can from various resources and I challenge you to do just one thing today to realise a long held dream.Life is for living not waiting!Newsletters are monthly every second Friday of the month.
On Monday's I will be posting a mindfulness video as my business is moving more in this direction.I am still taking coaching clients, yet this may change in 2014 so if you have ever fancied having a coach to help realise your dreams now is the time to get in touch. I have many coaching packages available to choose from.
Super Spring Smoothies...& juices
Spring Springer Smoothie
Bunch of Spinach, Kale or Cos Lettuce
1/2 frozen banana or a full frozen one
Carton or Can Coconut Water
Hemp powder (if you like)
Then I usually throw in some Lacuma powder but you can use coconut sugar, pure maple syrup or honey to start off as your taste buds may need something sweeter. Eventually you won't need anything more though
Note: All ingredients optional, you'll find your fave flavour eventually!!
Bunch of Cos lettuce
1/2 lemon (peeled)
2 small green apples
1tsp Fresh Ginger
I sometimes add a carrot too
Serve over ice
This juice will definitely wake up your taste buds and it is delicious first thing in the morning to get you going.
Sometimes we think that if we give up control we will somehow lose out but losing control can be a beautiful thing. I have talked about it so often but due to more recent rocking and rolling in New Zealand I felt this message was needed...
Do you bitch and moan your way through things you dislike but know you want or need to do them?
Then this video is for you!
Includes nice pics :)
I decided last week to go on an adventure. I renamed Wednesday’s Adventure Wednesday.
So last Wednesday evening my bug from Bali came back in full force and knocked me to the floor once again.
I won’t go into details because it isn’t really pretty but I ended up back in the Emergency Room for the second time in the space of a month.
I felt defeated and deflated. I felt my strong body had let me down. I was majorly fed up and found myself in a bad place within.
I had a whole week of being holed up in my apartment and couldn’t concentrate on much at all. So without life’s usual distractions (work, reading, watching TV, surfing the internet, caring for others etc.), we are left with…just us.
Some people find this very challenging and I always liked to think of myself as someone who was completely ok being in solitude and just with myself. So it came as quite a shock to me that I really wasn’t comfortable with it at all.
It started with the questions I began to ask myself about everything in my life. I began to question all that I had and all that I wanted (with the one exception of my husband- he is by far the best thing to have ever happened to me). Yet everything else was up for grabs!
Here’s an example of some of the questions, which surfaced in the silence and served to scare me:
- Am I living where I want to live?
- Am I being who I want to be?
- Am I enjoying running my own business?
- Do I like what I do?
- Am I giving enough?
- Am I taking enough?
- What is enough?
- Why does…..(insert people you feel even slightly jealous about) seem to have and get everything I think I want for myself?
- Do I even know what that is?
- Am I making a difference in the world?
- What does a difference mean anyhow?
- Why am I so obsessed over (insert current obsession)?
- What am I truly passionate about?
- Is my life meaningful?
- Do people like me?
- Do I even want to write a book?
- What difference will that make?
- What do I actually want?
- Why do I care so much about what other people think of me?
It got to the point where I was almost driving myself crazy with all of these questions.
So as my bug was finally healed on Tuesday evening, I decided (with my weak and fragile body) to make Wednesday an adventure of a different kind. One that went within.
How could I find the home within?
How could I be comfortable with my sense of self?
Without knowing all the answers to the above questions and instead of driving myself batty aiming to answer them, I decided to go inside and find some solid ground.
An inner awareness is finding your home within, your place of peace, calm, nourishment from the inside that seeps out into your everyday life to, not even transform your every day life, rather to unfold itself softly into existence.
I spent the whole day in silence until my husband got home. I breathed deeply, found peace on my yoga mat, in books, in my body, in the shower. If a question arose, which they did often, I gave myself permission to gently let it go. I found quietness in between the busyness of my mind and I soothed myself with words of kindness.
I came to realise that I may never have the answers to the questions I was asking and actually, that’s ok.
I am enough right now, I seek validation because I am always too invested in the opinion of others when really the only place that’s real exists right here…in my heart, in my open palm, in my eyes when I look in the mirror. I will trust that life will be kind one moment and cruel the next. Inexplicable things will happen to me and those I love yet as long as I can step into the beauty of my own being then I can continue to be free to be exactly who I was born to be.
A miracle child.
As we all are.
And even if things don't go according to a plan you think you have for your life, it doesn't mean your life didn't matter. xx