Am I valued?
Am I worthy?
Do people like me?
Have I been followed?
Am I liked?
What are people saying about me?
Some of these questions might seem familiar to you. Heck you might ask yourself these questions everyday.Several times a day.
As you scroll through your Facebook account, Instagram, basically anywhere you exist online, you may ask yourself;
Am I good enough?
How am I seen in the world by all the people who happen to be looking?
How do I come across?
Is my life big enough?
This saddens me.
When did our lives become so tethered to what others think? I know before the internet even began people had this issue. Yet, now it seems to have exploded in our face....
We almost care more about strangers or 'online friends' than we do about our 'in-life friends.'
For instance how many people have you encountered recently who were tweeting whilst you were talking, posting whilst you were chatting or interrupting your train of thought by commenting on Facebook or even answering a text?
Or, gasp, have YOU been that person?
I recorded a video a while ago on- why are you involving a third person in your two way conversation?
When did it become so important to us to get those likes, hearts and stars?
Why do we only believe we are worthy if we get them?
Why do we manipulate our lives (hello fancy filter) to look so gorgeous?
When did we lose the reality of our lives?
Why do we make it more important than real life?
Actually it's your brain that bathes in a little dopamine hit every time you get these likes, hearts and stars.
We crave it. Our ego craves it.
My ego craved it for so long.
Away from my business world I cared more about someone commenting on my healthy lifestyle and abs selfies than anything else.
I got a bit obsessive about living a 'fit life' online. I craved the attention I received there.
One day I woke up to myself and found the utter downside to it all...
That I was worthy even without attention. That my life was way more starry than all the stars. That it was enough that I actually liked my life. That I didn't need to and yep couldn't put myself through a filter every morning when I greeted the world.
Don't get me wrong. I adore social media, it has its place. But it isn't THE only place.
Let your life exist outside of it.
I recalled the moment I was tucking into a big beautiful yummy salad just a few short weeks after coming off my 'fit life' Instagram account and I almost felt sick not taking a picture of it and posting it to my followers...I realised just how sucked in I had been.
I realised with a jolt that I could just love my life for me...
Not for stars, not for hearts, not for likes. I don't need them anymore. Yeah they are all well and good but I don't rely on them any longer.
I am enough just the way I am.
My life is worthy because it just is.
What people say about me is their business not mine.
What a liberating way to live.
I invite you to let this post sink in and see if you are using your social media to feel valued as a person.
If you are, stop that shit in its tracks.
You are enough.