Vids for you to watch and enjoy.
They each carry a message I wholeheartedly agree with.
They each carry a message I wholeheartedly agree with.
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Vids for you to watch and enjoy.
They each carry a message I wholeheartedly agree with.
Love the Dove campaigns
There comes a time in life when we look in the mirror and no longer recognise who is looking back.
I'm not just talking about ageing...though I am certain that frown line is getting deeper...I am talking about personality changes when things may be happening in your life.
You might be the person who, when in a funk, hides away from the world, retreating to your own little hobbit hole and keeping quiet.
You might be the person who starts to get irritated and angry at everything around you.
You might wallow and complain to everyone who is kind enough to lend you an ear...and even those who aren't kind enough to listen.
You might shy away from social events and only talk with good friends and family.
I'm talking about transition, reinvention, renewal, the end of something....
For me, I have been going through some rough stuff.
I have been acting out. I have been shying away. I have been emotionally toiling in a place of disruption.
You may have read in my last post about my approach to my chronic pain.
I have been pulling out all the stops and trying everything I can to make myself feel better yet my mood is still low these days. I don't feel quite like myself.
As Bilbo said in the movie:
âI feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.â
ï»¿So what do we do when a major part of our puzzle is absent (in my case fitness) and we really have no choice in the matter?ï»¿
Well, we get real.
We let go for now of what we once were able to do and be ok with what we can currently do.
We end the comparison of our old selves, who may be absent for a short time or a long while.
I have had a few days of feeling down in the dumps, feeling sorry for myself, eating tubs of ice-cream and you know it was fun to let go for a bit. I enjoyed rebelling from my own way of being!
Yet the price I paid was a loss of connection with myself.
I did things that I am not proud of, said things out of sheer frustration and my mindfulness practice suffered and indeed was thrown out the window....
In short, I felt like something or someone else had taken over and was calling the shots!!
It happens, yet we need to be very gentle with ourselves and let be what actually is rather than fighting against it.
My coach asked me this question just yesterday.
I in turn am asking you.
How you might begin to connect with yourself again?
Get quiet and see what surfaces. Then gently begin connecting...back with you...back with your own self.
Visit my newstore to get a mindful meditation or my new album Daily Mindfulness to assist you in getting quiet and connecting!!
There is something about loving oneself that we forget sometimes...it is actually easy to do. We just have to remember.
I have had to give myself a whole heap of love recently.
I am dealing with chronic pain that isn't going to get better without surgery. It kicked off with a meniscal tear back in June last year, then elbow tendonopathy (still sore today) back in August, then cluster headaches and finally nerve pain in my other arm these last few weeks...
My doctor kindly spoke with a neurologist when I began displaying signs, which worried me slightly (often I wish I wasn't an ex-nurse). Walking into your doctor's office and telling them you suspect a brain tumour isn't a fun thing to do.
My personality was changing. I am super aware of me, I am a mindfulness coach after all, and I was getting irritable, grumpy, paranoid and just generally feeling not myself.
You can forgive me for thinking why something serious was wrong!
Anyway, the neurologist and the doctor both came to the same conclusion...
My Central Nervous System (CNS) was under serious attack!!
Because of this, my mood had changed, I wasn't able to do my normal daily exercise (which keeps me sane) and i just felt tired...like...a LOT!
So instead of let my CNS call the shots, I decided to do the following and I thank the following people for all of this...
1. More physio- Chris Cheesemore is the best in town in my opinion.
2. More Mindful meditation...but of course.
3. Cat Eddy from XtendBarre Wellington with her amazing MELT technique...seriously bringing my body back into balance.
4. Hypnosis- which I am currently learning myself.
5. Made an appointment with the BEST chiropractor/kinesiologist
6. Regular massage by the beautiful Balinese lady Maria at Spring Spa
The reason I am telling you this is because chronic pain can affect you in so many ways. I actually don't care how much it costs or how you go about it but loving yourself and taking a mindful approach with pain is always only a great act of self-care.
Becoming aware of your own vehicle, the one which has carried you thus far and will continue to be with you in this life, is to me, one of the most important.
Mindfulness gives you way more perspective and with pain, this is a good thing.
Thoughts about pain can be reduced and physical sensations dealt with.
If you, or someone you love, is in pain then please send them this blog post and ask them to seek out some form of mindfulness. It really is helping me to cope right now. If you sign up below, you can receive a nice body scan meditation (a brilliant one for pain and sleep).
P.S- As this article went to be published, I had just heard from the receptionist at the hospital that my knee surgery is going ahead with ACC approval in early April....ahhhh I can relax truly in the knowledge that I won't be in so much pain for very much longer
I am an author, well, I have written a book at least and it had really great editing feedback...
Where do you start when writing a book?
Well everyone does it differently.
Me, I started with a saying given to me by my mother. She said (when talking about some stuff one day) "put it in a pocket called past and get over it."
The idea must began with that. Characters started chatting away in my brain and developed in the wee small hours of the night...
I was looking at something huge though.
I NEED to write this book, but where do I begin?
It was so big and daunting that I decided to run in the opposite direction for a while.
I was a tad scared and overwhelmed but I told myself I couldn't let this idea fizzle away to nothing. I had to inject something into it and make it grow.
So I titled this post The Book Of You.
You are complex, you are dynamic, you are negatives and positives and cells and muscles and heart and brain. You are wrong and right and light and dark.
You have hidden depths and deep desires. You sometimes do and sometimes you do not!
When working with clients in my Mindful Coaching work, it can be daunting. How do we start something new? Where do we begin? How can we potentially write a new story? How do we let go of the one which has been holding us back?
Well, it's like a book.
You begin with the first words. The words of you.
You start writing sentences which eventually become paragraphs. Those paragraphs eventually become chapters.
In short, you are writing the book of YOU.
You have to seek out old stuff, allow shit to surface, highlight the crap and work on the characters in your mind. As I said, we are all pretty complex.
My editor said (in the report of my fiction novel) that he has read many books and I have a great insight into the human characteristic. He is right, I always have.
Sometimes people can look at something and just know it. They may have been born with some special ability or trained their whole life to finally fully understand something but that still might no make them an expert at understanding themselves.
The Book Of You is probably the hardest journey you will ever take but it is so bloomin worth it!
You will feel daunted, you may feel ready or slightly apprehensive.
Don't seek me out if you don't want change. If you can't bear to even look at the first words of you then you will certainly not be ready to write your book.
The words of you.
The sentences of you.
The paragraphs of you.
The chapters of you.
The book of you.
They are waiting to be discovered...
So why would you come to me instead of joining a gym or googling the paleo diet? Well, firstly, I’ve been in your shoes…
Three years ago I was 12kg overweight, lacking energy, unmotivated and feeling like a frump. I hadn’t ballooned overnight - the weight had crept on gradually over ten years. I thought my husband couldn’t possibly fancy me anymore and I was destined to a life of just getting bigger and unhealthier.
I hated trying on clothes and wanting to cover up my muffin top and flabby arms. I just wanted to feel good about myself again and confident enough to have my photograph taken. The other thing I didn’t know was that I was in peri-menopause and I had no understanding of how the changes in my body were affecting me.
Trouble was, I didn’t know how to change!
I believed I had a healthy diet and that the problem was just a lack of exercise. But I didn’t like exercise. I wasn’t an exerciser. I never had been!
One day, though, after I saw yet another horrendous photograph of myself, realised I was failing my own body and got really clear on what I thought I needed to do. I joined a gym and hired a Personal Trainer. He gave me some exercises to get me started and I started working out 6 days a week.
What I didn’t realise initially, though, was that I also had to change my diet. Not just how much I ate but what I ate. THAT was a whole different ball game…
I had my PT to teach me how to exercise but I had to teach myself about food and I remember at the start how helpless and frustrated I felt. I attended seminars on nutrition, read books, taught myself what I needed to know and carried out a ton of research to learn all I could.
After all this, I now understand what I should be eating and why and, since starting to exercise regularly, losing weight and changing how I eat, I have never felt fitter, more energetic and proud of myself - ever!
Most people don’t know what it’s like to feel really truly well – until they actually do…
The changes you need to make are not impossible – if you really want to make the change like I really wanted to.
I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I was determined to change. I had nobody to help me – I had to learn by myself. I came to realise that change is always possible, no matter your age or circumstance. It’s all about planning and getting into a routine. Small, regular, sustainable changes and, most importantly, knowing where to start.
Here are some of the things my clients say:
“But it’s difficult with a family…my job etc”.
I have two teenage daughters, a husband, a business and a house to look after and I managed it. I believe that most things are possible with knowledge. Knowledge is power!
“But it’s expensive…”
The best things in life usually are, yet it’s an investment in you and your future. I can guarantee it will feel worth it when you start feeling well and in control of your life, possibly for the first time.
Ultimately, you will have the knowledge and expertise to continue down this track but, until you do, I will stay supporting and guiding you until you are ready to do it alone. I am not into quick fixes or crash diets; I am all about lifestyle and lifelong change.
So, what would this look like?
I come to your home and I help you with:
Meet me for a chat to find out more.
By emailing me at by 20th February I will gift you one whole free session!
Credit Vassilis Michalopoulos / Flickr Creative Commons
Printed houses? Drone waiters? Chipping your kid?
Seriously, who would have thunk it? Yet it is happening. Every day, every moment, we are advancing technology, pushing the boundaries of our thinking...
It's quite cool...in 1943 Thomas Watson, Chairman of IBM said "I think there is a world market for maybe five computers." He was thinking big people...now each of us has a mini one in our pocket!!!!
In 2008, Barack Obama was elected as the first African-American President.
The future/present/future didn't/isn't going to happen by accident. It didn't happen on a whim. It happened because someone first believed it could.
I am always saying that we have everything we need to be happy. It is already inside. However, when I say this, I don't mean you should just lay down on the floor and not do anything ever again.
I read somewhere recently that sometimes you have to let go of something before you can take hold of something. Instead of adding more things to your life, perhaps to live it more and authentically, you might just need to let go of something...
Maybe you could see the possibility before you ever think it will be a reality...after all, if you don't even see the possibility that you could do something then it is unlikely ever to come to pass.
Now imagine if 3D printing remained a faint possibility, imagine if they hadn't advanced the idea of computer technology, imagine a world without email or advances in modern medicine, imagine if little Barack had told himself it was never going to happen...just imagine...
Now imagine, the thing you have been putting off the plans you haven't been making...just imagine if you just left them at this point. Nothing will happen. Exactly that...nothing.
Yet if you believe in a possible future for yourself and take small steps towards that possibility then you may just change your world.
Don't you get frustrated when everything in everyone else's world looks picture perfect? I know I do.
This is why I have decided to post videos that are real, raw and yes...totally uncut!!
I believe in keeping things real. Keeping myself honest and accountable and so I will be posting these from time to time...maybe not every week but just when I have something useful to share...maybe you will find it useful, maybe not but I will aim to inject some humour :)
I like to laugh...even at myself :)
Please visit here to see the video because try as I might, it kept coming in upside down....that has never happened before...
Who would you be without all of you?
What I mean by that is that we are always searching, searching for ways, reaching for ways to fill us up. Reaching for the next thing that might bring us some level of happiness.
After all, we all say we want it, we all say life would be better if we felt a certain way and yes, it might.
So we aim to push parts of ourselves away. We say we want to be rid of such and such...be it anxiety, stress, loneliness, fear....we want it to go and stay away forever. We wish we never felt this way. We only want to feel good right?
Yet, there is another way you could look at it. Yes, we are forever reaching for the light, yes we feel good when well....feeling good and so we label it and then when we feel less than this...you guessed it, we stick another label on that. The bad label. The one we want rid of when it appears.
In other words, we want the light turned brighter and the darkness to go away forever.
Here's a radical idea though, maybe not so radical, people have talked about it for years and years...hello Dr Jung...
What if, instead of push away, you invite in. As you would with any other feeling. How about we let in, gosh darn it, the 'bad' ones???!!!????
What might that be like?
The more you push away, the more relentless the feeling will try to be dealt with in some other way, usually a very unhealthy way.
Instead of looking at your "darkness" as a weakness or something to be rid of, you actually cradle it in your hands with love and understanding.
This can be scary at first, but anything that is changing often is, right?
So when we can truly respect that darkness as well as that light...well that my friends is the path to freedom, true, ridiculously cool, awesome, mind-blowing FREEDOM.
For years I played small, hung back on the fringes of my life, swam up against the side of the metaphorical swimming pool and yes, completely wasted all my talents in the process.
For years I kept everything light and dark buttoned up inside until one day, after feeling so fed up with myself and how it was playing out in my life, I allowed myself to feel it all. The buttons, so to speak, popped off and inside all that dark and light I found a really authentic person who had been waiting to gift me with her presence all along.
It is never ever too late to do anything....even this.
Will it stretch you?
Will it be challenging and icky sometimes?
Might you need some help with it all?
YES you may. You may need therapy, coaching, friends, family, acupuncturists, doctors, healers, trauma experts...
Will it change your life?
I wholeheartedly believe it will and in the most authentic way.
Yet look at what ignoring it is doing...still there right? It may always be. BUT, you then get to see it for what it is, you may even become friends with your anxiety, you might even embrace your sensitive nature like a brilliant teacher that you ignored for so long.
Give yourself the gift of inquiry, curiosity...insight x
I absolutely love this quote by Viktor Frankl. What a wonderful human freedom.
We can be going through anything...everything...disaster...heartache...dark nights of the soul and still, we have this choice.
No matter what, we have this choice.
We can be left with nothing and still...still we have this choice.
I think Viktor went through the most horrendous experiences any human could go through and yet he made a choice as to how he viewed his situation. Viewing it with a different set of eyes to many others.
I believe that we forget this sometimes, forget it often, or perhaps never thought of it like this.
Opening the door to a new possibility of being, a new way of thinking is the very reason I believe I was put on earth.
Don't laugh, it is so true!
Bringing gently, to your attention, perhaps again or perhaps for the very first time, that you do actually have a choice.
Yes, you may suffer and yes it may feel disastrous and yes you may feel as if your world is falling away piece by piece yet....you still have this choice.
Isn't it wonderful?
So no matter what may be happening in your world, remember this post, remember you actually have a choice.
Mindfulness, my jam, is all about looking at our thoughts, our relationship between thoughts and emotions and actions.
It is rather cool so if you wanna hear more then hit me up.
I often get asked about the benefits of mindfulness. After all, when I am at a networking event or social gathering, I am often asked that question we all hear "what do you do?"
I am always tempted to answer with something witty and off the cuff like "when?" or "do with what?" but I answer "I'm a mindfulness coach."
Then come the questions and mostly people ask why learning mindfulness or practicing mindfulness is a good thing?
The "what's in that for me" question.
The answer is LOADS! See here for just a few!
Mindfulness is an amazingly simple tool we can use in life, in all situations for example depression, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, illness etc.
It is super effective and leads to a great understanding of oneself and that self-awareness can generate so many amazing changes in your day to day existence.
It is just that. A tool. There are many others you can use.
Yes, I am a mindfulness coach and yes I could talk about mindfulness and its benefits all day long (and likely bore you in the process), but it isn't everything.
I LOVE anything to do with mindfulness. I consume research, read books, and watch talks on it all the time. Yet I have to be mindful (ha ha) that I am not allowing my mindfulness practice to disrupt my flow.
I am also a business woman. I am aware that being mindful can sometimes mean that I want to take my time doing things and not set goals because that is all future focused stuff. But I have clients who need responded to and people requiring my attention and a business to plan and run and work on.
Mindfulness is wonderful to use in the world of business. Yet, when it becomes the only thing you focus on, you can lose your edge, you can blur the lines, you can be consumed with being so mindful that other people get left behind in your pink fluffy cloud.
So be mindful that when you start being more mindful (that's a lot of mindfuls) that other people may not be where you are. Other people may not understand your world. Be aware of when it is a good time to step out of your needs and into other people's needs.
That way you are giving them the gift of your presence too....